Start with moments, not adjectives
"Kind, funny and supportive" could describe anyone. The moment they drove two hours to bring you soup could only describe them.
Spend ten minutes listing small scenes: the first time you laughed together, an ordinary Tuesday you still remember, the habit of theirs you secretly love.
Use a simple three-part shape
Most strong personal vows follow a quiet arc that's easy to remember:
- Where you started — one short memory.
- Who they are to you now — one or two specifics.
- What you promise — three or four concrete promises, one of them a little playful.
Write the way you speak
If you'd never say "my heart's eternal compass" over dinner, don't say it at the altar. Short sentences and your everyday words sound more sincere.
Keep it to about one to two minutes — roughly 150 to 300 words. Agree on a rough length with your partner so one set of vows doesn't run three times longer.
Read it aloud, then trim
Anything you stumble on twice gets rewritten. Anything that sounds like a greeting card gets cut. Print a clean copy in a large font so you can glance down without losing your place.
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