Why shorter usually wins
Guests are standing, glasses are full and the kitchen is waiting to serve. A toast that ends while people still want more feels generous; one that drags feels like a speech about the speaker.
Typical lengths by role
These ranges are common guidance, not hard rules — follow the couple's wishes first:
- Best man or maid of honor: about 3–5 minutes.
- Parent of the couple: about 3–5 minutes.
- Rehearsal dinner or guest toast: about 1–3 minutes.
- Couple's thank-you toast: about 2–3 minutes.
How to time it honestly
Most people speak about 120 to 150 words per minute when they slow down for a room. Read your draft aloud at that pace with a timer, then add a few seconds for laughter and pauses.
What to cut first
Cut the second story that makes the same point as the first, the list of thank-yous someone else is already giving, and any inside joke that needs explaining.
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